Hello lovelies! Hope
everyone is doing well. I’m sorry it’s
been awhile since I have written. I felt
the need to talk with you about loving yourself no matter what your size is and
so here I am again. I was part of a
conversation during a lunch outing with a new group of friends recently. There were women of different ethnicities and
sizes. All beautiful and funny as hell,
it was a great! During the lunch one of
the women mistook something I said. She
was having a conversation with someone else about her size and I was talking to
the only man in our group about something else and somehow we got our wires
crossed. At first she thought I was
talking about her and she said something like “It’s okay I can take it.”, and I
felt horrified. I was so upset that she
thought I would say something demeaning about her size. It was a very confusing conversation at first
but we got it all sorted out. It got me
thinking though.
It seems like lately I keep hearing the women I care about
apologizing for eating or for the size of some body part or another and it
makes me sad. We should be proud of
ourselves and never apologize for living how we want when we want. Should we all be perfectly proportioned
Stepford wives? In our dreams maybe! If we were all the same, personally I think life
would be boring! There would be nothing
exciting and different to see. Why do we
beat ourselves up daily about how big our butt is, or how our rack is too small
or if we just lost 20 pounds our lives would be perfect? I believe we just need to adjust how we think
of ourselves. We are perfect as we are
and our lives do not need to stop until we get to the “right” size. It is a silly notion and frankly a lot of
pressure to put on ourselves.
I am not saying to just give up your morning runs or trips
to the gym. I am just saying loving
yourself should be number one on your list, not getting to a certain size and
putting off life. Things that make you
smile. Hope. Love.
Laugh. Dream. If you happen to eat some ice cream along the
way, don’t apologize! You are beautiful
and you should enjoy everything life has to offer. Easier said than done, right? I know, believe me, I know. The one thing I have been trying to learn
lately is that everyone is going to have an opinion but the most important opinion
when it comes to me is my own. If I hate
my own body then how can I face the critics out in the world? People are harsh sometimes, but if we know and
believe we have value and worth it might make it easier to take on the haters
of this world. In fact don’t you think
that we can be our own worst critics?
Which in essence is what I am saying.
Other people’s words are just that, words. How they affect us is part of our own self
esteem and our own body issues. So you have
a giant pimple, your nose isn’t perfect, or you are fatter or thinner than you’d
like today. You are still alive and well
and should love every part of yourself every day.
We need to tell that little voice in our heads to STFU
sometimes. The one that says “if only I
was…”. Guess what? If we keep waiting for the day we are perfect
we might as well give up now. Cut
yourself some slack ladies! We are the
most perfect version of ourselves every day, we just don’t always see it. Repeat after me, “I am freaking awesome today
and everyday!” Feels great right? Give yourself permission to be human girls,
because that is what we are, and that is just fine. Laugh out loud even if your tummy
jiggles. It is so worth is! Eat the popcorn at the movie because it is
delicious! Run after your kids and enjoy
them! Do what makes you happiest, just
do not apologize for who you are because you are this amazing living being and
you deserve it! Life is hard sometimes,
we don’t need to make it harder by beating ourselves up too. We are all works in progress, just enjoy the
journey. One day at a time.
Okay enough soapbox for now, signing off. Let me know what you think! Until next time...
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